For some, the holidays are a time to bask in the warmth of fireplaces, family, and friendship—feasting on the harvest from a year of hard work. For others, the holidays are a stark reminder of changes or losses that have occurred over the past year.
If you have lost something this year, or are mourning changes, follow these tips:
1)Know that you are not alone. Grief is a very normal part of loss, and there are many experiencing these feelings at this time of year. Just because your neighbor’s driveway is full of cars does not mean that there are not others out there suffering from the space in their lives.
2)Recognize that there are brighter days ahead. The sun will come out again. Winter is a season, as is this period.
3)Use this time to reflect on what you want from life. What might the new year bring for you? What changes do you want to make to improve yourself or your situation? What do you dream of for yourself?
4)Know when to get out of bed. If you are depressed or alone, sometimes just changing your scenery can brighten your mood. Go to the bookstore and browse, or grab a coffee at your favorite café. Take in the smells and artwork. Feel the energy of the people around you.
5)Reach out and help someone less fortunate. Do you have a friend who could use a phone call, or a colleague who is sick? It can help lift your spirits to provide value and encouragement to someone else’s life.
6)Avoid anything that might cloud or pollute your mind with more negativity, whether it be alcohol, or negative people. Surround yourself with the best material you can. Think of yourself like a prized museum collection, in need of protection right now.
7)Ask for help. It can be so hard to open up about your problems or needs, but you can be so refreshed when you do. Most people like to be there for you, because it makes them feel good to be helped. Talk to a friend, family member, pastor, or anyone you feel you can trust. Join an online support group if you can’t find a real live person.
Pamper yourself. Go to a spa, buy yourself your favorite meal, or take a bath. Take care of you!
What do you do to cope with loss or change in the holidays? What are you going through?
